Signs to Know if a Guy Likes You

Aug 23, 2009

How do we really tell that if a guy likes a girl? Actually, you could somehow feel if a guy likes you. But sometimes, believing it basing from what you may just seem to feel might lead to false assumptions. I’m usually bad at this. I’m no good on how to tell if a guy likes this girl especially if I’m that girl. I usually think guys won’t ever like me nowadays. As of now, I don’t mind my love life at all, in fact, I like it more to observe other people’s relationship. I’ve been a fan of one ship, and I have been really keen with observing them so I searched for some tips on how to know if a guy likes a girl or is interested in her.

How Do You Know if a Boy Likes You

If you pay close attention to boys, you are likely to pick up on some physical clues that he is interested in you.

The look

He gives you a look that betrays his calm exterior. Even though he is across the room, "that look" he has says it all. It is sweeping, from your head to your toes, and then his eyes linger on yours. You think you notice the beginning of a tentative smile.


Boys are visual by nature. If he is interested, he will not be able to keep his eyes off you. Whether it's attraction to the way you look, what you are wearing or even the movements you make, he will want to watch. He may even have love at first sight.


“A woman can always read a man’s heart through his eyes”, as mostly said. A guy can never mask his feelings if you look him directly in his eyes. Most probably, if a guy likes you, he would always attempt to make an eye contact with you. Also, he might stare at you, without being fully aware that your friends or other people around might be watching him as he does that. If a guy is rather shy, he would try to look away and divert is attention with something else if you catch him staring at you. Watch out if you see a mischievous glint or an affectionate sparkle in his eyes when he looks at you. As for the more mischievous and bold guys, a playful wink might also do the trick.

Eye contact is the key. When a guy's into you, he wants to look you in the eye (not somewhere else). But don't be discouraged if he's averting his gaze and blushing: he might feel intimidated by your awesome appearance and witty intellect.

Note: Matching gazes is a very important way to figure out how to tell if a guy likes you because engaging on eye contact with someone of the opposite sex is considered an invitation for conversation. However the eye contact must last at least five seconds and you guys must hold each other's gazes in order for you to tell if the guy likes you.

Looking Away

A boy that is shy or introverted is likely to look away very suddenly when he makes eye contact with you. The giveaway in this case is the quick head snap or the eyes darting away. Wait for a moment or two after he looks away before looking back at him. If he likes you, odds are he’ll be looking again and the process will repeat.

A great way to watch him without making eye contact is to have your friends watch him. Try not to look at him during this test. Have your friends watch to see where his eyes are looking. If he likes you, he will be so engrossed in following you around the room that he won’t notice your friends are spying.

Less Eye Contact or Interaction

Sometimes when a boy acts like you don’t exist when you are near, he may actually be very interested in you. This is because being around you may intimidate him. Give him some distance and see if he loosens up and returns to staring at you.

Finds You in a Crowd

It’s one thing to spot him looking at you when you are the only person in the room--but what about when you are standing in a crowd? He is interested if he fixes his gaze on you when he has so many other choices.

Smiling Back

If you catch him looking at you and he smiles when your eyes meet, there is a very good chance he is interested in you. If he does it once he might just be friendly. If he does it twice or more, he likes you.

He appears unexpectedly

He likes you a lot if he shows up out of nowhere. He can only do that if he has been asking people about your schedule, or he has been paying attention to where you are going and at what time. His face may turn red when he sees you. A sudden, "Oh, hi," is his way of saying, "I don't want to seem obvious, but I am interested in you." If you feel the same way, do not act shy. Stop and talk to him.


Yes, it is said that if a guy likes you he will try and impress you and will be at his very best behavior when you are around. He will open the door for you, hold out your chair if you go out for a meal, will look out for you while walking, and will hold your hand while crossing the road and so on.

Gauge his interest

Find a reason to chat him up. If he seems happy that you said hello or if he responds to your text message right away, that’s a good sign. Guys generally don’t play hard to get, so what you see is what you get.

Look at his body language

Body Language has been proven to be 85% stronger than verbal language which makes up for only 15% of your communication. If the guy likes you, you may see that he rarely turns his back to you, often leans towards you, and also looks at you a lot.

See if he shows off

Notice how he acts when you’re around. If he gets all loud and jokey with his friends or starts showing off in some way, he’s probably trying to impress you.

Tip: Look at his pupils when you make eye contact; if he’s attracted to you, they’ll get bigger.

Check out his chest

Check out his chest. Is he sticking it out a little when he talks to you? Men subconsciously “puff up” around females they’re interested in. It has to do with evolution: He’s sending the message that he’s strong enough to protect you.
Brushes up against you

Even if it is by accident, the fact that he is bushing up against you is a sign he sees you in a attractive way and wants to get physical with you. This brush up can happen both intentionally or accidently.

Watch his hands

Watch his hands. Men who are attracted to someone tend to touch their earlobes. His ears may turn a bit red, too.

Check the clock

To find out if a guy has been checking you out, quickly look up at the clock on the wall, and then look at him real fast. If he followed your eyes to the clock, he was staring at you and was very surprised by the sudden movement of your eyes looking at him.

Mind Games

He might try and flirt with you friend just to see whether you get jealous. On the contrary, if he seems really jealous or angry if you display flirtatious behavior with any of his friends, or any other male-friends of yours it is a sure thing that he likes you.

Actions That Show His Interest

The conversation

Does he like you? When he manages to get close enough to you, to ask you questions, he is interested. He appears to be listening and responds to what you say. He's moving in to the ultimate question, which is: "Are you seeing anyone." He would only ask this question if he wanted to date you, and he hopes the answer is "No." Never ever wear a ring in public. When a guy is across the room, he cannot tell which finger it is on and he may assume incorrectly that you are taken. If he doesn't ask you the question of whether or not you are attached, he may ask someone whom you both know.

Attention to detail

The guy will go out of his way to entertain you, make you laugh in case you are in a group. He will always be listening very carefully when you are talking. He will try and grab you attention by cracking a joke, passing a comment. He will always ask for your opinion in every little thing.
He listens attentively. Another way how to tell if a guy likes you is his conversation. If you told a guy you went on a ski trip on Friday and you talk to him on Monday and he is asking you questions about it, there is a good chance he is interested in you because he is taking the time to remember details about your life from the weekend which means you were on his mind those days.

Teases You

When a guy likes you he will often express his feelings for you indirectly by teasing you. This can do done by making witty jokes about you, being sarcastic, and answering your questions with questions. You shouldn’t get offended by this behavior because he is just playing hard to get and will eventually express his liking for you.

This may seem counter intuitive, but he might tease you because he likes you. It’s true though. Some boys don’t know how to express their feelings or may not even understand his feelings. Other boys want to tell you they are interested but don’t know how—except by teasing. While you may be annoyed by his actions, understand that it is a form of attention. You might want to tease him back a little--it's a good way to flirt with a guy.

Talk about what you like

Mention something you like – a type of food, a local sports team – and see what he says. It’s human nature to respond positively when someone we like gives their opinion.

Tip: Ask him to help you with something, whether it’s carrying a heavy item or giving you advice. Guys love to “rescue” girls.

He is nervous around you

The last way how to tell if a guy likes you is he speaks to you but often stutters around you. Usually when a guy meets a woman he likes he is nervous and will occasionally stutter this is not because he is not confident but he is simply nervous around you. A few quick conversations will break the nice and have him speaking to you confidently.

Do favors for you

A guy who really likes you will often do favors for you, whether giving you a ride to and from work, helping you with the dishes or randomly helping you with a task at work when nobody else will. The fact that he takes time out of his busy day to help you out when nobody else does, is a sure tell signs that he thinks about you in a positive way and wants you to think about him in the same way.

Tries Too Hard

To get your attention and to win you over, boys will sometimes try too hard. This can be in the form of being overly funny (and usually failing to be funny at all) or showing off his athletic skills.

He tells someone

Is he interested? He likes you if he tells a mutual friend that he wants to know more about you, or he asks other people who you are and where you're from. He is trying to act like he's "just asking" but his questions indicate more than a casual interest. And when he tells someone that he finds you attractive, he probably knows that it will get back to you. He's hoping it does.
He gives off the impression that he Is just bring up the topic casually in conversation. But in reality he says this in hopes of the conversation being told to you so that you two can meet up and go on a date.

Has His Friends Talk to You

If one or more of his friends starts talking to you, chances are he has asked them to find out if you are interested. Whatever you tell his friends will be passed along to him. Once he knows that you are interested, he will probably follow up by talking to you himself.

Shows Interest in Your Friends

Boys may begin to show interest in your friends if he is interested in you. He may want to ask your friends if you like him, or he may just use your friends to get closer to you.

Don't Forget his Friends

Pay attention to his friends. If they know he's interested in you, they might tease him subtly when you're around. Gauge their body language by studying their reactions to your presence. For example do they turn to him? Are they smiling or maybe smirking to suggest they know something that you don't.

References: Uttara Manohar, Tonja Weimer, Love to know Dating, Howcast, HubPages
Credit: bkutie @ deviantart for the image

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